this is good advice here. im trying to follow a similar list at the moment 1) listen to lots of old music i haven't for ages - none of his. 2) see old friends 3) re-ignite my love for things i like doing on my own that require no social interaction and make me feel like me again 4) wear stockings every day because its sexy and its just for me 5) goalsgoalsgoals for the future, even tiny little ones like fix my violin or buy some sketch paper 6) interact with new people and build up a life without him needing to be in it. oh yeah. 2 weeks down baby. quite nice to stumble upon this, I agree with all of them, mine are similar. Your 6 is indeed excellent. as is 3 and 5 but 5 will be hard for a while. anyway thanks ~r